As I approach my late 30s (yes, I know I still can’t believe it myself sometimes), I find myself reflecting on my life and the life lessons I have learnt along the way. All the things I have been through and experienced has made me the person I am today. To appreciate the good, you must go through some rubbish times too.
Maybe it’s an age thing, but I find myself in a calm and peaceful place. Even if a bad situation does arise, which it always does cause that’s LIFE. I find that I have a different attitude towards it now, then I would have in my 20’s. I guess when I was younger, I’d get more stressed and wouldn’t deal with certain situations well. I’ve learnt that stressing/crying and worrying don’t help or change a situation, it only makes you feel worse. Having said that, we are human after all and having those emotions and feelings towards anything that makes you unhappy is normal and OK! In fact, it’s better to get it out then keeping your emotions in. This is something I learnt to do as i got older.
Self-belief and confidence
I feel like I have finally found me. I have been searching to find what I love again and what I really want from life. I’ve been so lost for so long that I almost forgot what I was passionate about. It’s so amazing to admit that I have slowly worked out what I want to do and what I don’t want to do.
Finding love was one of the most important contributing factors. Since finding my soul mate, it’s aligned me. I feel secure, confident and happy. It’s made me find the passion to do what I love again. I guess I’ve always been a romantic!
Is a must. I always make time for myself. I’ve never understood or appreciated it before. Having a day or evening to myself to do me works wonders. Whether it’s sitting in the sauna/steam room, getting my hair/nails done, booking in a massage/facial or simply just catching up with family or a nice dinner with the girls is key! It’s important to clear my thoughts and focus on myself sometimes. I’m a very giving person and love helping those I love, however, it’s nice to focus on me sometimes as well.
I think it’s important for everyone to do the same. Health awareness is so important when it comes to re-charging the batteries, for your health, mind and well-being.
Fitness for the body and mind
I’ve made attending the gym and eating healthy part of my lifestyle now. I try to work out at least twice a week and I allow myself one cheat day a week. I feel happier, healthier and overall more focused and full of energy.
Do what makes you happy
I’ve always tried to be sensible, especially when it comes to my career. I’ve always held down a good secure full-time job, working in the financial world for Banks. Was it what I always dreamt about growing up? NO! However, I’ve always tried to do the right thing and work, as I thought it was important to always earn your own money and never to depend on anyone for handouts.
I love singing and fashion and if I didn’t go for it and try I would have asked myself ‘what if’ my whole life. Having said that you still need to pay bills and eat. Always have a backup plan. Work and do what you love on the side as a hobby, until it starts to give you an income to leave your job. When Fe-nix didn’t work out, I was gutted, but at least I still had a job to fall back onto.
Not everyone is going to be happy for you, and I’ve learnt that’s ok.
This has been an interesting journey for me. I have an amazing set of close girlfriends, some I’ve known for years and some that I’ve met along the way in different parts of my life journey. They say you meet people for a lifetime, season or reason. This I couldn’t agree with more.
I’ve learnt a lot about all different types of friendships and what makes a good friend. Trust, honesty, kindness and simply just being there through the good and bad! I’ve worked out the type of people I should surround myself around. I have ‘quality over quantity’ and that works for me.
Living in the moment
We are all guilty of it. As a lifestyle blogger, I take pics/videos every step I take, however, I am completely aware that I need to live in the moment more than through a phone. There is nothing wrong with it, but I just want to enjoy the experience and take in the moments more.
Don’t worry what others think
I can’t believe I used to care so much about what others would think or say about me. I can honestly say it’s now the last thing on my mind. What others think or have an opinion on, no longer matters to me. It’s amazing how different it makes you feel when you have the confidence not to care about what others think. Change your mindset, its only you that can control this.
I’ve had years of learning from scenarios and life experiences. They have all led me to my life now, which is the happiest I’ve ever been. So, find yourself, reflect on your job, career, love and friendships. Be honest and be brave!
Here’s to finding yourself and doing what you love most!
Lots of Love